| THE EARLY YEARSFortunately for all
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| | trying to shirk this "seek but do not
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| Americans the 1960's, 70's and then 80's
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| | find" rigid pattern. Unlike many happy
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| led first to greater sexual freedom and
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| | bisexuals - gays and even many Lesbians
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| liberation - and then to greater sexual
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| | - are still under this spell -
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| honesty. The internet boom of the last
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| | notwithstanding that even the major gay
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| decade solidified those gains to the
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| | mecca cities San Francisco and New York
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| extent that there can likely never really
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| | closed the gay baths - gay bars are half
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| be a return to the sexual
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| | in number or half full today -yet the
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| "dark ages".THE GAYS & THE "THREE
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| | adult bookstores - and videos - and
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| B's"Gays and Lesbians had historically
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| | pornographers are richer than ever -
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| lived prior to the Stonewall Riots lives
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| | harvesting a new crop of young twinks and
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| of quiet desperation "in the closet"
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| | studs for their 15 minutes of fame every
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| facing overt hostility and repression
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| | season of every year until the end of
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| every day of their lives.After the
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| | time. The internet has been a major boon
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| STONEWALL RIOTS - our gay and lesbian
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| | to pornography and pornography sales
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| brothers and sisters overall marched
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| | worldwide especially in the gay
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| straight out of their closets and
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| | "beefcake" market.THE THREE B'S REPLACED
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| eventually right down MAIN STREET or
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| | BY MAJOR MERCHANTS OF GREEDThings -
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| FIFTH AVENUE or MARKET STREET or SANTA
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| | largely due to AIDS as well as long-term
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| MONICA BOULEVARD in their festive PRIDE
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| | maturing gay and lesbian community - have
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| PARADES across North America and now
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| | changed and are changing - but the change
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| across the world. Many gays and to a
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| | from the "3 B's" holding the community in
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| lesser extent Lesbians want to be open
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| | its thrall has morphed into gross and
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| about their sexual orientation - while
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| | crass materialism as soon as the major
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| this is NOT the case with most bisexuals
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| | marketing gurus found the Gay and Lesbian
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| - especially happy bisexuals.Soon across
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| | NICHE of affluent consumers with huge
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| America there were dozens of openly gay
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| | discretionary spending who were eager to
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| bars, adult bookstores, and bathhouses in
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| | "Seek and Find" and then "Seek and Find"
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| every major North American city. Gay
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| | again - consumer goods and luxury travel
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| Community Centers sprouted in most every
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| | and the like.NOW the vast majority of the
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| major North American city - save San
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| | FORTUNE 500 companies market to the Gay
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| Francisco - where until recently the
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| | and Lesbian Community noting in their
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| community was so fractious they could not
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| | marketing circles that the Gay and
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| even open such a center! Gay Community
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| | Lesbian market is one of the larger and
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| Centers with time became Gay and Lesbian
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| | more affluent segments of today's
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| Centers - then GLBT Centers and soon to
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| | marketplace. Gays and Lesbians who were
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| be GLBT and P - polyamory - and Q centers
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| | already as average American consumers
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| - Queer.Maybe one fine day even the new,
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| | easy prey for materialism and
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| trendy METROSEXUALS will join the sexual
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| | consumerism were even more easily
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| minorities to party and to parade!The
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| | influenced when buying this and that
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| GAY PARADIGM - which emerged as a result
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| | product led to acceptance by this or that
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| of this desire for being OPEN - was often
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| | major corporate icon, this or that major
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| confrontational to the larger straight
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| | world conglomerate - tied with greater
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| community with a certain "WE'RE QUEER and
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| | status and greater rank in one's
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| WE'RE HERE!" element in far too many
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| | millieu.HERE COME THE
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| areas of America. In the gay era before
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| | ALTERNATIVES:Finally, after this gay
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| AIDS the fact of life was that the gay
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| | party and Pride parade - then gay +
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| community was hijacked by the THREE B'S
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| | Lesbian party and parade - was far along
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| who made a killing - and also ultimately
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| | - here come some welcome alternatives.
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| killed off thousands if not millions of
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| | The Metropolitian Community Church has
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| gays. They are the BARS, the BATHS, and
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| | been with us for decades and has sought
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| the BOOKSTORES. Their agenda was to make
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| | to help fill the spiritual hunger of many
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| FILTHY LUCRE and they did so rapaciously
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| | gays and lesbians who want to find that
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| for years and years. Gay communities in
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| | solace and inner peace in a gay and
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| these early years - including their
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| | Lesbian religious setting.Many mainstream
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| activists and journalists became
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| | Christian churches have embraced the gay
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| dependent on these deep pockets but they
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| | and lesbian community in many outreach
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| too were all too often caught in the
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| | programs as the Churchof Christ and the
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| thrall of the 3 B's AGENDA - even hidden
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| | Unitarian/Universalists and the gay and
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| agenda of SEEK BUT DO NOT FIND.Even today
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| | lesbian support groups and organizations
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| the "beau ideal" of the American gay
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| | within their home churches as Dignity,
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| community is some twenty-something twink
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| | Integritry, and the Brethern and the
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| or hunk or military type - portrayed
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| | like. Islam offered up "Gay Muslim"
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| again and again for decades endlessly and
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| | groups and there are many GLBT groups for
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| all but mindlessly. This beau ideal type
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| | Jews, Buddhists, and other faiths.Many
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| can never be snared and brought home to
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| | gay and lesbians have also explored
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| one's bed - save at a hefty price
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| | alternatives to organized religions with
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| (escorts and models or trade) - much less
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| | New Age thinking, yoga, Scientology
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| to one's life and family! Billions have
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| | and other stops on that long travelled
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| been and will continue to be made on the
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| | road the American pursuit of happiness
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| backs and knees of these 18 to 25 year
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| | trail.Microcosm vs. Macrocosm:Maybe gays
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| olds who are then cast off for next
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| | and lesbians just finally caught up with
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| year's "model". Nothing is sadder than
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| | the mainstream of American life - gross,
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| meeting a middle-aged towel boy at a gay
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| | crass materialism being catered to and
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| bath or spa or a broken down bartender at
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| | cajoled into more and more consumer
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| some gay bar who openly laments that he
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| | spending and more and more consumer debt
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| was once "somebody" in the gay limelight
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| | to "Seek and Find" and then continually
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| years ago.The NOT so secret moneymaking
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| | in yet more and more rounds of
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| agenda of the POWERS THAT BE in the gay
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| | self-indulgence and over-indulgence to
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| community - the 3 B's and their legion of
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| | "Seek and Find" again and again. Sadly
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| co- conspirators was "SEEK BUT DO NOT
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| | there is no "silver bullet" for the Gay
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| FIND". Gay men HAD to go out as often as
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| | and Lesbian community nor American
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| possible to the bars, the baths or the
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| | society as a whole. When and where will
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| bookstores - as they might be missing out
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| | we all find something more valuable,
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| on something or someone. Even if they
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| | reliable and relevant - than buy, buy,
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| found someone it was and is all too often
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| | buy and more, more, more? When?Best
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| a one-night stand if not a 15 minute
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| | Wishes & Big Hugs,
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| standup. One gay friend recently admitted
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| | Stewart ("Mac") McCloud
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| to me he had not had horizontal gay sex
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| | Founder & President
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| since the AIDS epidemic was full-blown
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| | The Bi MEN NETWORK
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| (i.e. two decades). While many gay men do
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| find long-term committed relationships -
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| | 250,000+ Men with us!Stewart (Mac)
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| as the new Gay Episcopal Bishop of New
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| | McCloud is the Founder and President of
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| Hampshire - far too many will regale you
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| | the Bi Men Network - - the world's
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| with Elizabeth Taylor-esque tales of
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| | largest social and support organization
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| their 13 husbands and numerous affairs -
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| | for bisexual men, bi-curious males, gay
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| few lasting more than a season or two.
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| | guys, and bi couples - now with over 1/4
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| BUT - the 3 B's want gays "to seek but do
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| | million members. With members on all six
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| not find" - to be good consumers - good
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| | continents - the Bi Men Network brings
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| customers! I attended University of
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| | together both bi and bi-curious men and
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| California's Hastings College of the Law
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| | bi couples on one side and gay men on the
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| in San Francisco in the early 70's and
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| | other. Many of the gay men who join the
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| one openly notorious homosexual law
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| | Bi Men Network were once bi themselves,
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| student openly proclaimed that his small
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| | or enjoy bi men or are gay men who are
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| gay bar and its 11 long-term regular
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| | often alienated from and disaffected by
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| patrons who cashed their every paycheck
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| | the gay mainstream and gay lifestyle.
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| there paid his way through law school. He
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| | Annual Bi Men Getaway Weekend held each
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| admitted that over two dozen such
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| | Spring in Las Vegas. Bi Men Network
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| "regulars" were openly feted at all major
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| | offers support and resources for its
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| holidays and their every birthday to keep
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| | worldwide membership and a means to make
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| them as "regulars".Even to this day - the
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| | new friends both online and offline.
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| GAY PARADIGM - the GAY COMMUNITY is still
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| | Free!
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