| Flirting with men is so fun and so simple. So why don't | | | | potential Mr. Perfect, you'll find that magic starts to |
| we do it? | | | | happen. You make friends more easily. You become |
| One man recently wrote me that it was true that | | | | the life of the party. You find it easier to strike up a |
| flirting was a great way for women to attract men, but | | | | conversation with strangers. |
| he was "yet to experience this from a woman, must | | | | Best of all, when flirting feels natural to you, you no |
| be fun." | | | | longer will feel awkward when faced with a |
| Men LOVE it when women flirt with them! They love | | | | handsome man that you'd like to know better. You'll |
| the fun aspect of it: the playful banter, the dance of | | | | feel confident, because you know that other people |
| eye contact, and the sheer joy of being surprised by | | | | have enjoyed your flirting. You won't even have time |
| the unexpected. | | | | to get nervous, because your flirting skills will kick in and |
| Best of all, flirting is immensely flattering. It's an indication | | | | start the conversation for you. |
| of interest in another person, even if that interest is not | | | | But being the best flirt in the world won't protect you |
| romantic in nature. The best flirts know how to make | | | | from the one thing that every flirt must face: rejection. |
| the other person feel special without expecting | | | | 3. Don't take rejection personally. |
| anything in return. | | | | The one sure way to kill the spirit of flirtation is to see it |
| If you are going to improve your flirting skills with men, | | | | as in terms of success and failure. As I said earlier, |
| here are three tips that will give you a SUPER flirting | | | | your goal is simply to make the other person feel |
| mindset. | | | | special without expecting anything in return. If the other |
| 1. Flirting is playful, not serious. | | | | person doesn't want to return your comment, or wink |
| If you give a man a compliment, are you flirting? If you | | | | back, it's no more devastating than a playmate saying |
| make eye contact, does it count as a flirtation? If a | | | | that they don't want to play right now. |
| stranger teased you when you were walking up to the | | | | Luckily, your chances of rejection are lower than you |
| bar, was he flirting? What exactly IS flirting, anyway? | | | | think. Most people go through life wishing for greater |
| Flirting is distinguished by its playful nature. You cannot | | | | connection with others. When we're standing in a |
| be a serious flirt. Remember how boys used to tease | | | | crowded elevator or waiting in line at a busy shop, |
| you in grade school, and you used to tease them | | | | most of us would love someone to start a |
| back? That's the kind of playful spirit you want to | | | | conversation with us. It can be such a delight to meet |
| invoke while flirting (although I don't recommend pulling | | | | someone new, even if our conversation only lasts for |
| anyone's pigtails!). | | | | a few minutes. |
| A flirtatious encounter will usually involve three | | | | Think of your flirtation as an offering: you're offering |
| elements: | | | | someone the possibility of connection, and if they don't |
| * Humor (or wit), | | | | want to take it, you simply offer it to the next person. |
| * Risk, and | | | | Sadly, the art of flirting has declined so greatly that |
| * A display of interest. | | | | many people don't know what to do when someone |
| For example, a witty comment is one common way to | | | | flirts with them. They may feel uncomfortable and turn |
| start flirting with someone, but by being the first to | | | | away or ignore the flirtatious glance or comment, |
| make a move, you're putting yourself at risk of | | | | because they have no clue what they should do. |
| rejection. If your flirtatious comment pushes boundaries, | | | | If you keep a playful mindset while flirting, and practice |
| you're also taking the risk that the other person may | | | | it whenever and wherever you can, you'll find that your |
| not find your sense of humor amusing. | | | | fears of rejection dissipate until you can no longer |
| Beginning flirts may find it uncomfortable to put | | | | remember why you let them keep you from making |
| themselves in the vulnerable position of displaying their | | | | the first move. |
| interest in another person without knowing whether | | | | For a further discussion of flirting tactics, look no further |
| that person will even respond. That's why the next | | | | than "How to Be Irresistible to Men." Sarah Paul's |
| point is so important. | | | | original e-book will teach you how to use flirting to take |
| 2. The best flirts practice on everyone. | | | | your interactions with a man to that next level. You'll |
| You'll never become a great flirt if you only flirt with | | | | also learn how to be funny, how to master the art of |
| men you like. Flirting is one of life's greatest joys, and it | | | | conversation, and how to give compliments to a man. |
| should be practiced whenever and wherever possible. | | | | It's everything YOU need to know about flirting, in an |
| Flirt with the waiter at the coffee shop. Flirt with the | | | | easy step-by-step format. And it's all part of the |
| bus driver. Flirt with the old man standing behind you in | | | | complete "How to Be Irresistible to Men" course, which |
| line. | | | | includes advice on how to kiss and how to overcome |
| When flirting becomes part of your daily life rather than | | | | any shyness that may be preventing you from flirting |
| a specialized skill that you apply only when you meet a | | | | with men. |