| Are you emotionally dependent? You might want to | | | | anxiety, depression, victim hurt, guilt, shame, anger, |
| go through this checklist. | | | | jealousy, and so on. You are emotionally dependent |
| __I cannot feel lovable and worthy without another's | | | | when you are not defining your own inner worth, |
| approval. | | | | instead making others' approval and attention |
| __I need a lot of attention from certain people to feel | | | | responsible for your sense of worth. |
| that I am okay. | | | | When you are not taking responsibility for your own |
| __I don't trust my own feelings. I need others' to | | | | feelings and for defining your own worth, then you are |
| validate my feelings. | | | | dependent upon others to do this for you. This is being |
| __I am afraid of rejection. I isolate, or try to be perfect, | | | | a victim of others' choices. This is emotional |
| or agree with others, or give myself up, or shut down, | | | | dependency. |
| and/or do many other things to avoid rejection. | | | | The opposite of emotional dependency is emotional |
| __I am afraid to be alone. | | | | freedom. You attain emotional freedom when you |
| __I often feel empty inside. | | | | decide to learn how to take 100% responsibility for all |
| __I am often anxious around others. | | | | your own feelings. |
| __I am often jealous in my relationships. | | | | Taking responsibility for your own feelings means: |
| __I take others' uncaring behavior toward me | | | | |
| personally. | | | | 1. You compassionately embrace all painful life feelings |
| __I get angry when others do what they want to do | | | | - loneliness, helplessness over others, heartache, |
| instead of what I want them to do. | | | | heartbreak, sorrow and grief - and learn how to |
| __People have told me that I am too needy. | | | | manage these difficult feelings so that you don't have |
| __I don't know what to do with myself when I'm not | | | | to avoid them with your various addictions. As long as |
| around others. | | | | you use addictions to avoid these feelings instead of |
| __I'm fine when I'm alone, but I get tense and anxious | | | | learning to compassionately manage them, you will |
| around others. | | | | continue to be emotionally dependent. These feelings |
| __I often find myself blaming others for my feelings - | | | | are being cause by others and circumstances, but it is |
| my anger, emptiness, insecurity, anxiety, and so on. | | | | up to you to learn to lovingly manage them without |
| __I believe that my good feelings should come from | | | | closing down and turning to addictions. |
| someone else loving me. | | | | 2. You learn to explore the feelings that you create |
| __I believe that my safety and security should come | | | | with your own thoughts and actions - your anxiety, |
| from someone else. | | | | depression, victim hurt, guilt, shame, anger, jealousy, |
| __I can't have fun unless I'm with someone else who | | | | rage, envy, and so on. As long as you believe it is |
| knows how to have fun. | | | | others' choices rather than what you are telling |
| __I am often anxious or depressed, guilty or shamed, | | | | yourself and how you are treating yourself that is |
| hurt or angry. | | | | causing these feelings, you will be emotionally |
| This is certainly not an inclusive list, but you get the | | | | dependent. You will see yourself as a victim until you |
| idea. You are emotionally dependent when you are not | | | | take full responsibility for how you are creating these |
| taking full, 100% responsibility for your own feelings - | | | | painful feelings with your own self-abandonment. |
| for compassionately nurturing your life feelings of | | | | Being emotionally dependent is a hard way to live. |
| loneliness, helplessness over others, heartache, | | | | Discover your personal power by learning how to take |
| heartbreak, sorrow and grief, and for not learning | | | | responsibility for your own feelings and becoming |
| about how you are treating yourself and what you are | | | | emotionally free. |
| telling yourself that is causing your wounded feelings of | | | | |