| "The key is to get to know people and trust them to | | | | anything that gives you the creeps learn how to |
| be who they are. Instead, we trust people to be who | | | | protect yourself by realizing that they just went from |
| we want them to be and when they are not, we cry." | | | | being hired for the position to now being monitored on |
| -Anon | | | | a trial basis! |
| I hear it so often, "But what happened, it was so good | | | | Always remember one thing; actions speak louder |
| in the beginning?" Duh! What happened was reality set | | | | than words and never forget it. People can be great at |
| in and now you're getting a glimpse of the "real" | | | | giving you lip service but when it comes time to deliver |
| person that emerges. Of course it's always good in | | | | they fail miserably. They can convince you they are |
| the beginning! The person has their best foot forward | | | | sorry but when the same behaviors continue with no |
| and they want to make all the right moves. It's new, it's | | | | relief, sorry just doesn't get it anymore. |
| exciting, it's all about the exploration phase. | | | | It's up to you to tell yourself the truth when the truth is |
| Then the truth unfolds right before you very eyes. | | | | staring you in the face. If you choose to hide your |
| Sometimes the relationship sustains a good steady | | | | head in the sand or make excuses, be prepared to live |
| flow. You may have minor little things occur but they | | | | with the consequences. You have the ultimate say as |
| pass with ease. Or, on the other hand you may see | | | | to whether someone is worthy of spending time with |
| Red Flags whipping you in the face and you choose to | | | | you or they just don't quite make the cut. |
| ignore them and make excuses for them. | | | | Don't let your desire to have a relationship outweigh |
| If you are in a relationship and it hasn't been all that | | | | having one with someone who isn't worth your time. If |
| long and you are seeing signs of things that make you | | | | you are in love with love and desperately wanting to |
| feel bad or hurt your feelings, run for the hills. It is way | | | | be with someone, when the wrong person enters the |
| too soon to be on the receiving end of little jibes, hurtful | | | | scene you might not be able to see straight for all you |
| comments or inconsiderate behavior. If this person | | | | will see is the relationship and not the person. |
| feels so bold as to let you have it now, what will it be | | | | So if you find yourself in the beginning of a relationship |
| like four years down the road? | | | | and things are going good, keep on the path. If not, |
| Don't let the fun and newness loll you into a false | | | | make sure you choose wisely because it's easier to |
| sense that this is the perfect relationship. You don't just | | | | get out now with less time invested than wasting a |
| give your heart to someone without knowing that you | | | | whole lot of precious time with the wrong person just |
| can trust them with it. People need to earn your trust. | | | | because you wanted a relationship, regardless if it is |
| When you start to see telltale signs of disrespect or | | | | good or bad. |