| I was recently at the home of a friend's daughter and | | | | example, you are saying this affirmation that is on your |
| she had affirmations taped on the walls everywhere. | | | | refrigerator, My relationship is loving and harmonious, |
| Are these helpful to you? I asked. | | | | but consciously you are trying to control your partner |
| Not really, she answered. I do them all the time but | | | | into being more affectionate and you feel resentful at |
| they don't seem to be doing anything. I've read about | | | | the lack of affection, the negative intent prevails. This is |
| the law of attraction - that like attracts like - and I'm | | | | why it is so important to pay attention to your feelings, |
| trying to just think positive thoughts. I wonder why it | | | | which is the first step of the Inner Bonding process. |
| isn't working? Maybe the law of attraction isn't real. | | | | The moment you are aware of feeling anxious or |
| Knowing of the work I do, she was interested in my | | | | resentful or any other negative feelings, you can then |
| opinion of this. What do you think about the law of | | | | notice what you are telling yourself and how you are |
| attraction? she asked. | | | | behaving that is causing the distressing feeling. It is only |
| The problem is that most affirmations are stated from | | | | by attending to your thoughts and feelings in this way |
| the conscious level of our mind. But there is another | | | | that you can make the subconscious conscious |
| level, a subconscious level, that is also thinking thoughts, | | | | enough to be able to choose thoughts that create joy |
| and these thoughts might be the complete opposite of | | | | and excitement rather than thoughts that create |
| the affirmation. | | | | distress. |
| But how do you know when you are thinking | | | | Oh, this makes so much sense! Are you saying that it's |
| subconscious thoughts if they are subconscious? | | | | not that there is anything wrong with affirmations, but |
| We know by our feelings. Our feelings respond to our | | | | that when we are also thinking something negative |
| subconscious thoughts. If you are thinking something | | | | that creates negative emotions, this is actually what |
| negative, you will feel anxious, scared, angry, stressed, | | | | we are manifesting? |
| or depressed. Your feelings are letting you know that | | | | Yes, that's exactly what I'm saying. So rather than |
| you are thinking and behaving in ways that are counter | | | | ignoring your feelings or numbing them out with various |
| to what you are actually affirming. | | | | addictions, it is vitally important to notice your feelings, |
| But I thought that if I ignored my negative feelings and | | | | as they are alerting you to whether or not your |
| just focused on positive thinking, I would start to feel | | | | subconscious thoughts are positive or negative. You |
| better and get more of what I want. | | | | manifest when you think thoughts that move your |
| No, it doesn't work that way. It is what we think about | | | | heart and soul with a sense of passion and purpose. |
| with emotion that has the power to manifest. Thoughts | | | | These thoughts are always thoughts that are about |
| without any emotion have no power. It is the emotion | | | | loving yourself and others, never thoughts about |
| behind it that gives the thought power. Do you have | | | | controlling others or outcomes. |
| any emotion when you are saying affirmations? | | | | I'm so glad I spoke with you! I'm definitely going to |
| No, I just say them. | | | | practice noticing my feelings and the thoughts that |
| That's why they aren't working. There is no energy to | | | | create them. |
| propel the thought, no true investment in it. If, for | | | | |