| p>The midlife experience for women might be | | | | inspires me. The bamboo also reminds me that my |
| described as "Life Reinvention 101." We've come | | | | coach is holding my vision with me; I feel supported. |
| through the first half of our lives having done what | | | | What is your dream? How can you create a visual |
| we've done, learned what we've learned, and been | | | | expression of it? |
| who we've been. We understand it is up to us, to a | | | | 2. Declare your intention. Say it out loud several times |
| large degree, what the second half of our lives will be. | | | | a day, for yourself, in the form of an affirmation. Speak |
| We might redefine in huge broad strokes, or we might | | | | it to your friends. Making a declaration is itself an action |
| simply fine tune. But there is a sense of urgency. | | | | that can be very powerful. Be open to the ideas that |
| Barbara Scher captures it in the title to her ovular (not | | | | come into your mind when you declare your intention. |
| seminal!) book about creating the second half of life: | | | | You may tap into intuitive information you would be |
| "It's Only Too Late If You Don't Start Now." | | | | wise to act on. Trust yourself to know. |
| One of the ways to "start now" is to kindle the sparks | | | | 3. Protect your dream; it is a fragile organism when it's |
| of your vision. Whatever dream you see for yourself, | | | | new. Just as you would protect a newborn baby from |
| nurture it. Allow yourself to move in that direction. If it | | | | danger and harm, or a tulip shoot just peeking out from |
| isn't right for you, you will know it. As you move | | | | the soil - protect your vision from harm. Do not expose |
| forward, more of your vision will come clear. Taking | | | | it to the kind of people my daughters call "dreamkillers." |
| action will result in your greater clarity about what's for | | | | You know who I mean. When you say "I'm training for |
| you. | | | | the AIDS Ride, they say, "Isn't it a lot of work to raise |
| You may have only inklings and inclinations right now - | | | | all that money?" When you say, "I'm cutting back my |
| that's fine! Honor yourself by nurturing them. Feel | | | | hours at the office so I can spend more time painting," |
| inclined to take a comparative spirituality course? Do it! | | | | they say, "Aren't you afraid they'll find someone full |
| Curious about Tai Chi? Try it! Psyched to learn how to | | | | time to replace you?" It's better not to declare your |
| cook with kale? Borrow a good cookbook. | | | | vision to people like this, certainly not at this stage in the |
| Or you may have a great deal more than inklings. You | | | | life of your dream. Share it with people who are likely |
| may know you want to start a foundation or a theater | | | | to say things like, "Great!" or "How can I support you in |
| troupe. You may know you need to work on solving | | | | that?" or "I can totally see you doing that. What a |
| the world hunger problem. You may know you have | | | | great idea!" |
| to live at the ocean now. | | | | 4. Keep moving! Stay in action, taking steps toward |
| Wherever you are in your own process of nurturing | | | | your vision. The steps can be as small as looking up a |
| your vision, consider these suggestions as ways to | | | | website, or as large as writing up a plan for your new |
| support you in your process. | | | | business. What's important is that you stay in action. |
| 1. Create a visual expression of the dream and place it | | | | Each next step you take will bring you to a new |
| where you can see it daily. Part of my vision for | | | | location where you can see a landscape you couldn't |
| myself is to further develop my work as a coach, | | | | see before you took the step. There is new |
| writer, and speaker and to reach a greater level of | | | | information for you here, feedback for you to process. |
| prosperity through it. My own coach gave me a | | | | Let it in and let it inform your next step. |
| beautiful bamboo plant, a symbol of prosperity. Seeing | | | | The sparks of your vision can lead to the roaring |
| this lush, beautiful bamboo in my office every day | | | | flames of a great new adventure. Trust the process |
| keeps the spark of that dream glowing for me, and | | | | and have faith in yourself. Enjoy your journey! |