| What do you believe about failure? | | | | of failure? Why not embrace the process of learning |
| The ego wounded part of ourselves, the left-brain part | | | | and growing instead of only being focused on the |
| of ourselves that has been programmed with many | | | | outcome of your efforts? Why not focus on enjoying |
| false beliefs, often believes that: | | | | the process of learning and creating something that is |
| "If I fall, I am a failure." | | | | important to you? |
| "If I fail, I am stupid." | | | | People who don't worry about success or failure, who |
| "If I fail, no one will like me or value me." | | | | instead are excited about their learning and growing |
| "If I fail, then there is no point in ever trying again." | | | | process, generally find their way to succeed. The |
| "If I fail, it brands me for life as incompetent." | | | | reason for this is that they don't let failure stop them. |
| "If I fail, then everyone who thought I was smart will | | | | Instead, failure spurs them on to work harder, to put |
| now think I am stupid." | | | | forth even more effort to learn what they need to |
| "If I fail, I will have made a fool of myself." | | | | learn to succeed. |
| On the other hand, the loving adult part of us - our right | | | | On the other hand, even very smart people, who are |
| brain, open, creative and learning part of us - generally | | | | dominated by their ego wounded selves, generally |
| believes that: | | | | allow failure to derail them. Believing they ARE a failure |
| "If I fail, then I just need to work harder, to put in more | | | | if they fail, they become too afraid to make more |
| effort." | | | | effort. In addition, they often believe that success or |
| "If I fail, I will have learned valuable lessons that will | | | | failure is not dependent on effort, but on ability. When |
| eventually lead to success." | | | | this is their belief, they often give up at the first sign of |
| "Failure is a part of life. No one succeeds without | | | | failure, fearing that, if their natural intelligence and ability |
| some failure." | | | | is not leading to success, then there is no point in trying |
| "Failure does not at all reflect on my worth as a | | | | harder. |
| person. I am intrinsically worthy, regardless of success | | | | Creating Success |
| or failure." | | | | Every successful person knows that effort, creativity, |
| "Failure offers me incredible opportunities to think | | | | openness to learning, and perseverance are what |
| outside the box, to think creatively. Let's get to work!" | | | | create success, not necessarily high intelligence, talent, |
| "I love learning and I love challenges. What I do is not | | | | or ability. Every truly successful person is someone |
| about success or failure - it is about the joy of | | | | who has not allowed failure to stop him or her from |
| creativity, learning and expressing who I am." | | | | forging ahead with passion and purpose. |
| Which way of thinking prevails within you? What are | | | | I encourage you to tell yourself that it is okay to make |
| the consequences to you of allowing yourself to think | | | | mistakes and okay to fail. I encourage you to see |
| from your wounded self instead of from your Loving | | | | mistakes and failures as wonderful learning |
| adult? | | | | opportunities for growth. I encourage you to let go of |
| Failure - A Part of Life | | | | the outcome and allow yourself to become fully |
| The fact is that mistakes and failure ARE a part of life. | | | | excited about the process learning, of growth, and of |
| Instead of fearing them, why not make it okay to | | | | creation. Being fully present and excited for the |
| make mistakes and to fail? Why not take the onus off | | | | process is what life is all about! |