| Bringing healing to family relationships can be one of | | | | divine Creator who is All sees, hears and feels with us. |
| the most difficult aspects of the spiritual healing | | | | This can be done with prayer, intention, meditation, |
| process. The reason for this is that we choose to | | | | creative expression, or any way that resonates. Once |
| incarnate within our specific families for the purpose of | | | | we have become more conscious of the pain we |
| healing and growth, which often challenges us deeply | | | | carry, the next step involves the willingness to let go of |
| to the core of our being. For many of us it may feel as | | | | our pain. Though on the surface it may seem strange |
| though healing is exactly the opposite of what we are | | | | to want to hold onto pain, there are many deep |
| receiving with our families, as we endure the difficulties | | | | emotions that can become entrenched within us, and |
| and limitations of our relationships with our parents and | | | | wrapped around our sense of self. We unconsciously |
| siblings. Before incarnating, we choose families which | | | | hold on to the pain, because it is all we have ever |
| can bring to the surface specific issues and themes | | | | known. For example, if we are carrying anger, hurt or |
| that our soul wishes to explore, learn about and heal. | | | | betrayal, we are asked to forgive and to move on. If |
| Often these issues are challenging and bring to the | | | | we were the victim of abuse or neglect, we are |
| surface discomfort that we would prefer go avoid | | | | asked to let go of our anger, and our entitlement to be |
| rather than face. Some people deal with this | | | | angry. This part of the process cannot be rushed, |
| discomfort by placing blame on their parents or the | | | | which is why it is so important to be willing to feel our |
| situation they were born into, which provides a | | | | emotions fully first. Once this happens, the next step of |
| temporary outlet for the emotional pain they have | | | | healing naturally unfolds. Once we have traversed |
| experienced, but ultimately prevents the free flow of | | | | these steps of becoming conscious, feeling our pain, |
| love, light and healing in the heart. As we grow | | | | and being willing to let it go, then we are fully available |
| personally and spiritually, there comes a time when we | | | | to receive a deep and complete healing. As we |
| are called to release ourselves from the emotional pain | | | | voluntarily empty ourselves of those things we've |
| we have carried from our childhood. There are steps | | | | been holding onto, more of God's love and light can |
| in this process, which may taker a shorter or longer | | | | enter our heart, mind and body. The pathways of life |
| time, or which may involve many lifetimes of learning. | | | | begin to open up and reveal new directions, new |
| The first step we take is to become conscious of the | | | | possibilities, and new choices. Our hearts begin to open |
| pain we are carrying. If we have repressed these | | | | and love blossoms, forgiveness becomes a way of |
| feelings, they will emerge when we are ready to face | | | | being, and spiritual awareness awakens within us. |
| them. Sometimes an event such as an illness or a loss | | | | These are the gifts that come through healing family |
| can illuminate feelings we have buried or forgotten. | | | | relationships, a heart full of love and trust, |
| Once we become conscious of the pain and allow | | | | unencumbered by the pain of the past. |
| ourselves to simply feel it, healing can begin. Being with | | | | Mashubi Rochell is a spiritual counselor and the founder |
| the pain, and bringing it before God is an essential part | | | | of World Blessings, an online spiritual support |
| of the process. In this way we are not alone, as the | | | | community for people of all faiths. |